5 tips to help you with your sixth month of pregnancy

The Vessel:  Your stomach is growing and your uterus is about the size of a small melon.  A line known as the linea nigra begins to form from your pubic area to your belly button along with other pigment changes in your face and torso.  Some of the things you will be experiencing during this month are increased fetal movement, your navel sticks out and your tummy will itch.  Colostrum, the yellowish forerunner to breast milk, may have started secreting from your breast although in the ninth month it will start in earnest.  You may experience back pain and constipation.

The Passenger:  The foetus now has periods of sleep and wake and if you are experiencing quick regular movements your baby may have a case of hiccups.  A thick white covering known as the vernix caseosa appears on the foetus and will continue until birth and her head is covered with soft hair.  Meconium, swallowed amniotic fluid and waste substances, has started to form in the intestines and can be expelled when the foetus is overdue or in distress.  The baby now weighs about 2 pounds and if delivered now the foetus has a chance to survive.

What you need to know:

Sex. Let’s face it – where there was once two is now three and even though sex brought us to this point many couples now find themselves uncomfortable with the thought of sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is always unpredictable in the best of circumstances and now is no exception.

Some women find that their vaginas and breasts are more sensitive now due to increased blood flow making sex more pleasurable to them while some women feel less sexy, bloated and still face symptoms such as nausea and fatigue, resulting in sex being the last thing on their minds.  Still others worry about possibly harming their baby and may seek to refrain from sexual intercourse altogether.

5 tips to help you with your sixth month of pregnancy

Your partner may find himself being especially concerned as he also may not want to harm you or the baby or may have problems seeing your body other than a home for his unborn child.  While sex may vary from couple to couple some women also find that that may be so from pregnancy to pregnancy.

Firstly, the developing foetus cannot be harmed by sexual activity as it is protected in the uterus as well as the amniotic sac. Secondly, unless otherwise directed by your doctor and with the exception of certain positions as the pregnancy progresses, sexual intercourse during pregnancy is safe.  And lastly, in a normal pregnancy sexual intercourse cannot bring on preterm labor or a miscarriage.

Most couples will agree that the main problem they may face is the mental concerns that one or both of them may experience rather than actually physical problems.  Some physical problems such as fatigue, nausea, back aches, a general crummy feeling and of course doctor’s orders are legitimate complaints and can affect a couple’s intimacy.  Categorizing your partner’s concerns as mental does not mean though that either party should ignore those concerns.

Here are some suggestions to help you through this period:

1.   Take time to open the doors of communication and strengthen your relationship.

2.   Be understanding. Be selfless – don’t try listening to receive a reward.

3.   Try to assist your partner in any way possible, for instance, divide the chores or offer a backrub.

4.   Create a romantic atmosphere or plan a weekend away for two.

5.   Sometimes intimacy can be doused if you or your partner are worrying about matters such as finance or being a good parent. Try sitting together to plan your budget or seek help through books or parenting classes.

Being pregnant is a wonderful time to cement and strengthen your relationship.  It is also a time that is full of dreams, hope and excitement.  So take the time to reassure your partner and work together a team, as this will be especially helpful in the months after delivery.