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Additional Communication Barriers of Success

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Non-Verbal Communication Barriers

Non-verbal communication barriers are hard to avoid. It is not always what you say, but, how you say it and the body language you use that relays your whole message. You may be making a verbal statement with beautiful words but the sarcasm, whining or harshness of your voice will relay a different message and create a major communication barrier. Your posture and facial expressions are a sure give away to what you are truly saying and feeling and also to how you are reacting and responding to what the other person is saying. Eye rolling, crossed arms, clenched hands, set jaw, muttering and sighs under your breath are all non verbal barriers that relay a negative message. Relaxing and concentrating on even breathing, using a relaxed and open posture such as loose arms or hands in your pockets, using eye contact and concentrating on the other person will convey that you are more open to the conversation and finding a solution.

Try to be aware of your non verbal messages. Often they are such an ingrained part of our personality that we are unaware that we are doing them. Therefore, when someone mentions them we become defensive. In your everyday conversations with friends, coworkers and family members try to be aware of your body language and nonverbal communication barriers to see what type of message you are truly relaying to other people. Practice relaxing during conversations focusing on your breathing and gestures until you are conscious as to how you are reacting, then when you find yourself I a difficult discussion you can control your reactions and be better able to find a satisfactory solution quickly and easily without the non verbal communication barriers getting in the way of progress.

Over Generalizing

Often when we are in a discussion there is a tendency to exaggerate and over generalize issues. It is easy to use words such as always and never when trying to get your point across. If you stop and think about it, nothing is always or never. Most people do things sometimes or most of the time, but not always or never. Many people will respond to the words very strongly and defend themselves because they feel backed into a corner. This will definitely throw a conversation off track.

By remaining calm and focused on the issue at hand you will be able to avoid the always and never communication barrier. If an issue does arise that you feel happens too frequently it should be discussed openly among all parties involved and solved before it can be used as an always or never issue again.

Additional Communication Barriers of Success

Over Defensiveness

Being negative and defensive during a discussion will not resolve any conflict. It is possibly the most normal response whenever ideas and opinions are challenged. It is OK to be assertive and stand by our views and values. It is when we close down and become negative and over defensive by refusing to see any other point of view that conversation stalls and conflict is allowed to grow. Take responsibility for our actions instead of denying wrong doing may be harder to do, but being defensive and denying the possibilities that we may be wrong can only harm relationships.

Blaming

Trying to lay blame for any situation on one party or another will stall progress towards a positive resolution. Constantly focusing on “you” statements and focusing on what the other person does wrong will not help find a solution. Using a “tit for a tat” such as “you did this first therefore I did this in response” lays blame on the other person for your actions. Blaming focuses on someone else not our own responsibility to the situation. It is not considered weak to admit you are at fault too. By both or all parties accepting responsibility for finding a solution the blame game can be avoided.