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Christian Rehabilitation for Pornography Addiction

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My addiction to pornography was born out of my lack of identity growing up. I was alone all the time and that’s the way I covered the pain of having no real relationships in my life.

That’s how all addictions begin, sexual or otherwise, as a way of keeping you out of pain.

Needless to say, because of the issues I had developed from the physical abuse I suffered when I was child, I wasn’t very good at maintaining relationships.

So I used pornography as a substitute to cover up the pain and loneliness I felt.

Confession

The first step in Christian Rehabilitation for any addiciton is to admit that there is a problem. It took me a long time to make this confession, I felt like I should be strong enough to make the choice to control it on my own and at one time I was able to, but that time has passed.

Dr. Drew Pinsky is the medical director of the department of chemical dependency services at Las Encinas Hospital and has made many TV appearances, most notably as Co-Host of the TV show Love Line.

He has said that for any addiction there is a window in the beginning that someone can just quit. Depending on how susceptible a given person is to the behavior, that window can be large or small. Regardless, once that window closes, the behavior ceases to be a choice and becomes an addiction.

When I finally made the confession that I have a problem and need help, it made me feel a lot better. I no longer had to hide my addiction and I could get the help that I needed.

Support

The next requirement is support, you cannot overcome any addiction on your own and the best place to find support is through prayer and within the congregation that you are a member of.

Christian Rehabilitation for Pornography Addiction

I am praying everyday and doing my best to listen to God in those weak times when he says “you don’t want to do this.”

If you feel your resolve slipping or when you have given in to your addiction, ask for the prayers of the church. It will reinforce your resolve and give you strtngth when you need it.

The reason why God has us here is to support each other and give encouragement when we need it. When we have learned how to deal with something then we can use our experience to make the trip easier for the next person.

Jesus Christ loved us enough to become the sacrifice for our sins and through that sacrifice he reconciled us to God.

By supporting someone in their time of weakness; we accomplish the command that Christ gave us in John 15:12 when he said, “This is my Commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.”

Accountability

Accountability is also very important. I have used a program that, every month, emailed a list of all the sites I visit to the minister of the congregation I am a member of.

One thing you must do is take the time to find an accountability partner that will help you. Sometimes the person you ask will say that they want to help, but because they are either unable or unwilling, they won’t and the only thing you are doing is wasting your money. I know this from experience.

Just the fact that my online habits were being recorded gave a measure of support and strength, but it’s much more effective when your accountability partner takes an active role in helping you and is willing to question you about the sites he or she finds in the log that may or may not be pornographic.

So, take your time and find the right person.

I also took the step of starting an online daily addiction journal. On a daily basis, I am posting an update in regards to my anxiety and addiction.

Pain and embarrasment are primary motivations to change a behavior and through my posting of my slip ups, it will give me one more incentive to control my addiction and anxiety.

You are welcome to view it and post any comments you might have or your own stories of struggle with addiction. We can learn from your success and also give you as much encouragement as we can in your time of difficulties.

These steps coupled with the jump in self esteem that has accompanied the increase in my ability to deal with anxiety has made a real difference in my recovery from my addiction.

I have been through too much and I no longer want to fight my way through the feelings of guilt and complete helplessness that I have felt in those times I have given in to it and I don’t think that you do either.

Relapse

There are times when christians have thought that they have lost their salvation because they relapsed and went back to their addiction. I know that I did in the begining of my recovery.

Mark 3:28-29 says “Assuredly I say to you, all sins will be forgiven the sons of men, and whatever blasphemies they may utter; but he who blasphemes the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness, but is subject to eternal condemantion,”

God already knew every mistake you would make, every sin you were going to commit and every relapse you were going to have when he created you. You can never doing anything that will surprise God.

What the phrase ‘blaspheming the Holy Spirit’ is referring to is you recognize that what you are doing is against God and you don’t care.

So if you have obeyed the Gospel and you are trying your best every single day to change the behaviors that are against God (sins of all types, not just addictions), then you have nothing to worry about.

He’s looking for us to get back up when we fall and do our best to live as close to Christ’s example as possible.

In those times when you do fall, for a sin that only affects you, what you need to do is pray to God and confess that you have sinned and thank him for forgiving you through the sacrifice of his son Jesus. If it’s a public sin, you must confess and apologize to those you have sinned against also.