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How Do We Define Self-Confidence?

How do we define self-confidence?

“Self-confidence is a term used to describe how secure a person is in their own decisions and actions. This can be applied generally or to specific situations or tasks.

A high degree of self-confidence means that a person believes they will perform an action correctly or achieve some specific goal or will make a good decision or have faith in a decision they have made or action they have taken.

Although someone can be incorrectly self confident, self-confidence usually means a realistic assessment of one’s own abilities. If you were to define self-confidence of an incorrect nature, that means it is unwarranted and is usually called ‘Over confidence’. A lack of self-confidence means that a person believes a particular action or decision will not work out as desired.

Self-confidence is an important attribute because lack of belief in the consequences of an action creates stress that increases the probability of failure, thus causing a person to under perform.

A lack of self-confidence is often coupled with Self-consciousness, especially when someone is performing an action while being observed by others. Pre-occopation (often irrationally) with what others might think should they make a mistake can cause over critical self observation that distracts a person from the task. Any mistake, however small, can be amplified by this pre-occupation and cause an erosion of self-confidence and a heightening of self consciousness. This can precipitate a downward spiral to disaster, leading to humiliation and embarrassment even when the person concerned is perfectly capable of performing the task.

How Do We Define Self Confidence?

Improving self-confidence is a matter of breaking this cycle, which is often best achieved by tackling the various elements together. Practicing the task so that is becomes automatic, combined with reducing the fear of the consequences of failure is a good approach. Ironically, sometimes to get over the fear of failure, it is necessary to fail often until the person learns that failing is not so bad after all, at which point they will be less self conscious and their performance and self-confidence will improve.

Additionally exposure to social groupings that are nurturing instead of critical can be of great help in improving self-confidence.”

If you think about how you would define self-confidence in someone you admire, it is an easy thing to accomplish, we can so readily see the positive in other people we respect, and expressing admiration for those attributes seems natural, yet, where there is low self-esteem we find it difficult to define self-confidence in ourselves.

Self-confidence can also allow you the ability to envision your success in advance and manifest the reality you wish to create. For instance if you walk into an interview with a knowing that you will get the job, a true belief in your value and abilities it changes the results. If you walk into that same interview with a lack of self-confidence most likely this can capitulate a self-fulfilling prophecy. Unfortunately we then turn to the very results we have created and take it as proof to prop of our belief in our own inadequacy.

We need to work towards kicking that habit and turn it around. Sometimes starting small can be a big step, take something you know you do well and build on it. Belief systems can be built and supported, they are a mental structure, and as such need a strong foundation. Ultimately we should feel comfortable and able to define self-confidence in ourselves the same way we can for those we admire.