Recognizing The Communication Barriers Of Success

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Wouldn’t it be great if we could overcome the communication barriers that produce failure? Life would be grand if everyone was open and accepting to one another’s ideas, philosophies and opinions. But, unfortunately, by human nature, we are not. Several factors creep into any conversation and disrupt the progressive flow of success and produce a failure to communicate properly. Whether the factors are verbal or non-verbal, conscious or subconscious, they still affect the outcome of the conversation.

Communication barriers can erode even the most promising conversations. Monitoring ourselves and taking the time to “truly and honestly” evaluate our communication techniques will widely open our eyes to the subtle but significant communication pitfalls that are a part of our everyday life.

Good communication skills develop trust and improve relationships and build the esteem of all people involved. All relationships are much stronger when there is a mutual trust and respect that has been built through open communication. Unfortunately all relationships, whether personal or business, have, at one time or another, been affected by a failure to communicate and the destructiveness of the communication barriers that come into play. Unless resolved the difficulties caused by these conflicts will erode a relationship by creating mistrust, low self esteem, uncertainty or even contempt.
Recognizing The Communication Barriers Of Success

How many of the communication barriers listed below do you recognize in yourself? BE HONEST. We have all used every single one of them at one time or another. Become aware of your reactions and responses and see if you can break down the communication barriers in your life and achieve better and more harmonious relationships.

Perception Differences

People do not see everything the same way and this creates a definite communication barrier. What you may see as an annoyance may only be a personality trait of someone else. Because of our different backgrounds, beliefs, values and upbringing, two people will see the same situation differently. If something upsets you take a few moments to step back and see if there is a perception difference. This does not mean to avoid the subject. You certainly need to find a way to politely express to the other person how you see the situation and how it affects you. By going a little farther to try and understand and respect where someone else is coming from, a lot of discussions will take a more positive turn and resolution to conflict will come earlier and you can avoid a communication failure.

Bringing up the Past

We are all tempted to bring up past hurts and disputes during a difficult discussion as a defense mechanism, especially if a disagreement is not going the way we want. We do this to re-introduce past episodes and turn the discussion on a different path in attempt to gain control. Using this communication barrier will not lead to a satisfying resolution of the current situation. All it will do is sideline the main topic of discussion and introduce variables that are unfair to all people involved.

When you find yourself wanting to bring up past events take a moment to breathe deeply and remind yourself of the topic at hand. If you find your verbal control slipping and you bring up past concerns it is not too late to stop and apologize for bringing up a subject that should have already been resolved and then get back on track. By human nature we tend to hold on to hurtful events and sometimes use them as ammunition at the wrong time. It is difficult to let these events go but it is healthier for us if we can move past them.

If someone else brings up a past issue you can politely mention that you would prefer to discuss the current point at this time and if they feel the previous matter has not already been resolved then you will revisit it after an agreeable solution has been reached on the current situation. Make sure that you do ask if they would like to discuss the previous concern they brought up after you have solved the current issue. This shows concern and respect for their feelings on your part.